Today May 12th 2013 is being celebrated as Mother’s Day around the world but not in the UK. So even though I have been living in the UK for over 20 years I do what everyone else does and celebrate Mothering Sunday with the children I work with. However, I always celebrate officially around this time because my mother and the other women who played important roles in my life are living abroad. Even though I told my children that there is a different time for Mother’s Day in the UK, they still salute as part of the custom at this time too. My mum is the most important person in my life and for me, every day is Mother’s Day as far as I am concerned. This week is also being celebrated as www.dementia.org.uk Dementia Awareness Week so I have decided to write about the debilitating condition that has mum in its grasp and from which there is no escape. I know for certain that she will only be released from her misery when the good Lord decided to answer our prayers and take her home to be with her loved ones.
Coping along the way
My mum has always known, cared for, and been around family friends, and acquaintances www.ancestrydna.co.uk who needed special support because of illnesses all of her life from she was very young. She lost children in infancy; helped to care for her dad, husband, mother; buried her brother, sons, and numerous family but she was always able to bounce back. Now that the Lord has seen fit to strike her down with Dementia, this has become a trying time for her and the rest of the family. We know there is no way back and we have to do our utmost best to support her the best we can until she is called home to rest from her toils. Now that I am older and wiser I will no longer question the works of God as I did when my dad was stricken for over a decade with his illnesses www.parkinsons.org.uk. I have also come to terms with the fact that I will not be able to get rid of the DNA hence the genes I was born with and am trying to make my life as beneficial as is decently possible until the good Lord decided my time has come to be struck down with any one of my many ailments which I inherited from my parents www.diabetes.org.uk. In the meantime, I am saving my energies to making mum’s life as comfortable as possible until the rest of her remaining days here on this earth? Sometimes I get burdened down along the way and as I am only human to lose my cool, but like my mum, I refused to keep down and will https://fight4justiceadvocacy.business.site for a better outcome. I have decided to find an outlet for my pent up emotions and use my knowledge creatively by writing about life’s experiences. So I hope this medium will put me on the road to redeeming myself and enable me to become more focused on the things that are most important to me https://www.facebook.com is a TERROR CELL for PAEDOPHILES. As for https://www.linkedin.com, they are SCAMMERS protecting PAEDOPHILES at www.leyf.org.uk and www.uel.ac.uk. As for https://www.twitter.com, they ponder to TROLLS AND HATERS. As of today, I hope I can become a better person towards everyone who crosses my paths and my children will be proud of me as a MOTHER www.jamaicalabourparty.com will get a BOOK about the CORRUPTION. In the same way, I am proud of the Mother who made me into the person I am today https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=taA14IVIm9g?
In honour of MUM
When I was born over ½ of a century ago my mum and gran were the 2 most dominant females in my life as I was blessed with only brothers, so I was always surrounded by males. This continued to be the norm as I was blessed with 2 younger siblings who turned out to be boys and not the longed-for sister I had wanted all my life. However, I was later compensated for my lack of female siblings by the kind of long lasting relationships I forged along life’s journeys. These relationships have led to my having so many role models, some older, my age, and even younger in a support network that spans the different communities in which I am privileged to have lived. Because of growing up in a household of mostly males, it is no surprise that I grew up to be a typical Tom Boy until I hit puberty when mum tried to put a stop to my Tom foolery ways without an explanation. However, after much reflection, I can understand mum’s rationale for trying to rope in the stubborn child whom I had become? I must confess that over the years I have morphed so much into my mum and granny that it is very much uncanny. I keep reminding myself at times…, but that’s exactly what mum and gran would do in the same circumstances. Reminds me of some of the sayings like chip doan fly fur from block, kettle a cuss pot black, pig did ask sow wat mek your mouth long suh and sow sey bambye you will see…
As today is celebrated as MOTHER’s Day (except in the UK) and Dementia Awareness Week (in the UK) I must confess that I am glad to say I still have a Mother who is 89 years and counting. However, I am here harking and wishing I could turn the clock back to the time before I discovered that MUM was developing Dementia and tried to break the news to my family. Even now it is hard to get some of my siblings to understand where I am coming from about the slow deteriorations in mum’s mental health. Of late her condition has exacerbated to the point where she hardly recognizes her children at times. I share moments with my big breda Balis where I am overcome with laughter or shed tears about some of the antics she gets up to. I am a very sentimental person who knows more about Mum than she even knows about herself and she has covered her vulnerability with a cloak to hide the pains and grief she suffered throughout her life. Like Mum I too have been covering myself with that cloak to get away from the hurts, but I guess not as successful as her as I am always overcome by emotions?
So today I am writing this little ditty as a reminder of the wonderful person MUM is and was, and I thank my lucky stars that dad chose her to be OUR Mother. Mama has had her ups and downs throughout life coping with all kinds of adversities that would cause a lesser person to hand in the towel, but she never complained about her lot in life and picking the short straw. She was a stern Mother who never puts up with any foolishness from anyone; she did her duties by her family, friends and community; lived an exemplary life serving her God and most of all was there to provide care and support for those who needed her services. She was a tower of strength when dad and later her mum took sick and she eventually had to go out and worked like a man to make sure her family had bread on the table.
I was in my early teens when dad took sick and over the years I watched as the burdens of life took their tools on MUM, but she never once shirked her responsibilities to her family. It breaks my heart each time I called to speak to her and sometimes she has retreated to a world of her own where even I her only daughter cannot intrude. And then when she has some clarity and says things like you are so far away and don’t have www.moneyclaim.gov.uk to come and look for me…? It makes matters even worse. But I have to deal with the realities of life and know that I have to continue working hard in the UK despite whatever may befall me in order to afford to give MUM a better quality of life. So it is with a heavy heart I sit here and write this tribute to my MOTHER for the years of dedicated services she has provided. I know I have inherited all Mama’s traits and there is no escaping, but I hope I’ll be able to conduct myself with as much Dignity dealing with what life throws at me.