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Scammers at Barclays Bank & HMCTS & CPS & CJS Discrimination caused my Mental and Physical impairments to deteriorate in 8 years of Hate Crimes to cause me to be having SUICIDAL thoughts. When I did not become a victim of HCT Group Impact Report 2016 my husband and I are now 600,000 older people in the UK say they leave their home once per week or less to
Paranoid from Elderly Abuse by the Police whenever I call the NHS for support they send the Police to my home to harass, bully and intimidate me to take me out of my home to SECTION me
PTSD -Fear of being MURDERED Since I am the target of my neighbour who smashed the glass door and the Police came to accuse me of locking her out and claimed I was shouting when I tried to tell my side of what happened. I have been accused of Antisocial Behaviour by Housing For Women. I was threatened in a letter by Samantha Gibbs. The Neighbour opened the letter and smashed the glass again. The door is still boarded up. The HATE CRIMES by Trina Philbert who visited my home for a meeting with Candace Smith from Adult Social Care was recorded because of the stance H4W has taken in this discrimination in regards to the fact. I moved to this address because of Domestic Abuse. H4W makes me a victim of my vulnerability of having disabilities. Someone sneaked into the Communal Passage to leave letters on my mat after a SURVEY was done and I raised concerns and they promised to get in touch. People I don’t know continue targeting me when the bins were pushed up to my windows to trigger my PTSD. I am targeted via telephone, mobile, email and text. In light of 4 generations of same family SLAUGHTERED in Bermondsey am SCARE. When I raise concerns no one act. My husband who is TRAUMATISE assaulted me 2 times. I identify atypical signs of behaviours of children with SEND.a
Eating Disorder – Fear of Homelessness – As a diabetic the eating disorder impact on my Mental & Physical Health. I am slowly been pushed over the edge as I stated in letter of concerns to LEYF I was DEPRESSED and slowly TORTURED to death. I self-referred to Kings Occupational Health in 2008 after the first nervous breakdown. I did Mental Health & Diabetes Research. So why am I on this Conveyor Belt of referral to Maudsley? June O’Sullivan the former Mental Health Nurse using my FILE to target me will be charged… d
Fear of Coercive Control – Whoever stopped my benefits working with HMCTS & CPS & CJS to cover up the ABUSE Rings of Richard Harty of the UEL who panicked and called my mobile on 27/9/2021. The date Barclays scammed my money in the branch. The date I had to go to the GP because Dr. Joanna Pennack failed to fill my forms correctly. So Richard Harty returned the money I applied for and kicked me out of the UEL. Sent Police to force entry to my home. Then PC Conway called my mobile. Barclays since closed my account and the FOS scammers joined the discrimination. Now am doing Nelson Mandela The Purpose of Freedom is to Create for Others. Because like him I was made a CRIMINAL by the law protecting ABUSERS in the reviews online during the ETcd c
| I am now the victim of Housing for Women that set up my neighbour to target me. We have had our differences before but were able to resolve the matter. I have always asked H4W to keep any concerns I raised on records. Considering I was a member of the SCRUTINY PANEL for H4W am putting on record that H4W set out to terrorise me from I raised concerns in a SURVEY and they promised to put me in touch for H4W to discuss my concerns. The next thing someone sneaked into the Communal Passage Way with the key I gave them to gain access to leave letters on my mat. The barrages of TERRORISM from H4W continues. I am living in a flat where I averted a Grenfell Tower happening. It took over a year for H4W to change the BOILER. The back garden is an Environmental Health Hazard. The new Housing Officer in the job for 1 month visited my home with a Mediator from Adult Social Care on the 20/6/2022. Despite numerous attempts to contact her I only got through yesterday 4/6/2022. For her to hang up the telephone on me. The world will be informed about H4W TERRORISM of a person made a VICTIM of my former employers LEYF after the death of my mother. And the roles played by HMCTS & CPS & CJS & MOPAC & CCMCC & BSB & SRA & DBS & JCIO & IOPC & HMPPS & CLCC & Southwark Council. Because as the FACE of Windrush 70 who meet the Rev Rose Hudson-Wilkin at H4W AGM in March 2014. After coming back from Jamaica saying my final goodbyes to my mother 4 days before her 90th birthday. I will let the world know that the Windrush Generation are treated worse favourably than the animals the RSPCA would rescue Leading up to my husband’s 100th birthday he is TRAUMATISED and I have to be careful as I was made a criminal needing Emotional Regulation Treatment to cover up the abuse reviews online during the ET. That’s why Richard Harty panicked and called my phone on 27/9/2021 the date I went into Barclays and my £1000.00 stolen at the counter. I have evidence Barclays target vulnerable women. There was a care plan on my account about my disabilities. The scammers at the FOS joined Barclays to ROB me the 2nd time. Now the DISCRIMINATION continued having me STRESSED out to FUNCTION then my UC was closed. There must be a REVIEW of how those of us with Mental & PHYSICAL impairments are supported not to lose our ENTITLEMENTS to CRIMINALS in the SYSTEMS targeting us to cover for LEYF and cohorts. If in doubt refer to Mrs Gloria Cameron’s CASE DISMISSED and Dr. Maria Hudson’s “The Experience of Multiple Discrimination” to understand why when they use my SENSITIVE DATA to trigger me I am unable to function. Now I hope my message is not MISCONSTRUED as that of a MAD BLACK WOMAN made a CRIMINAL like Nelson Mandela to cover ABUSE RINGS. The Internet profile of MERVELEE MYERS will prove those who must be jailed. Show less(visual only) | Mervelee Myers | |
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| 5 Jul 2022 at 10:28am | I came to the UK 30 years ago and like the Windrush Generation of Arnold Tomlinson now 99 years old who worked hard in this country and is now TRAUMATISED. I am penalised by discrimination. When I first applied for UC I waited months despite visiting the Job Centre for appointments. There is no understanding of my situation and any compassion shown towards Mervelee Myers since I applied for UC. That’s why my account was closed without any attempts made to help me. | Mervelee Myers |
| 5 Jul 2022 at 10:22am | The Impact of Discrimination on the Windrush Generation The story I want to share is how being a participant in RESEARCH because of discrimination empowered me to apply my personal experiences in trying to break down the barriers of exclusion imposed on me. Because I refuse to accept the “Experience of Multiple Discrimination” via the Employment Tribunal research when I was interviewed by Dr Maria Hudson for the Policy Studies Institute at my home in 2010 is key to why I must use my personal challenges with my Fight4justice campaign eight (8) years after I sat in the church where I feel I did not belong and listened the send-off that told the story of the woman who was my mother who I did not know. Show less(visual only) | Mervelee Myers |
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Without any shadow of a doubt. Mervelee Myers is going to Ms #Conniefuneral. My Tom is concerned because I am on benefits.
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My life is Open Book. Tom is scared senseless because of the DWP & LEYF Nurseries. They take my job…
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See I find #MsWestmorelandFestivalQueen. I don’t mind helping to promote her on www.Merveleeconsultancy.uk. All when my site don’t finish yet, feel free to advertise yourself. Proud of my Jamaica people, but Westmoreland Parish have to be #1of14. Wishing you all the best in your campaign. I know the people would make the best choice, like how it was time to make a change and vote for Kevin Murray for Councillor.
There is more in the pipeline, let me get established.
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Meet Miss Westmoreland Festival Queen 2017 – Daniela Woodbine #Jamaica55 #CelebrateAYaad #CelebrateAbroad
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Finally got back to pay my and homage to all who served in whatever capacity. At this time I am thinking in particular about Mr MASSEY WELCH. Why was he not part of our history and National Curriculum? It takes me coming to the UK and watching Ground Force to learn of his bravery and heroic representing Queen and Country in the World War.
That’s why I am now the owner of www.Merveleeconsultancy.uk. I would like others to join me in educating the future generations.
I benefit from having a solid foundation laid for me at Townhead Primary School under the Head Teacher Mrs Ura Hewling-Welch. I would like the same for the future generations. Then the world will understand why my breda ASHTER could dream and make them visions of realities with only a Primary School Education.
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These are the stories we MUST SHARE! I salute this Young Man. Why, because it brings back memories of my childhood. Read about my life experiences and support me to help others. Check me out at www.Merveleeconsultancy.uk. It has taken me 20 years, but thanks to Winsome Duncan and my #supportnetwork I am slowly getting there?
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Lady of the Day. Proud to be British. Celebrating British Values in Hackney with my Grandniece Carlene Tomlinson-Graham.
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My most abiding Memory of MAMA LOU – my final Goodbye… Each day as I am confronted by the obstacles placed in my way, I try & conjour up this Last Moment. With Mama’s final thoughts echoing in my head, when she came around to knowing her 1 Daughter 4 the Final time… I know that with God everything is Possible. So when I reach those Bridges & I need that 1 little push to cross, I’ll be thinking of Mama, Papa, GanGan, Byron, Ashter, Uncle Terah, etc, … God will never leave His Servants to deal with the temtations for ever & I am a Firm Believer, even if sumtimes I behave like a Heathen…?
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Been Busy like Ms Bizzy Bee>>>> Watching & Waiting 4 whatever news is in store 4 me? My Lady Bird came visiting from yesterday – in my kitchen busying Herself as I write! Well 4 me She has replaced the Bats that came 2 my Home in JA all these years! She is my Mama Lou – Belief kills & Cures they say? The Last MEMORY I have of my MAMA – after spending the time with her & her not REMEMBERING her 1 Girl! She stood at the window & told my #2 son Valdin Legister that “I Did Not Come To Say GOODBYE!” Can U see that Smile on my Mama’s Face? She already Knew that was Our Final Meeting b4 the End Came! My Mama is my Inspirations in everything I do these days! So when things get on top of me, I am just reverting to Type! Mama will always Live in my Memory! Now I need to Finish that Tribute to MBF & I think I may serve her Memory even Better for the Effort?
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Just back from a hectic 2 wks in JA. The trip was laced with sum bitter sweet memories that will always be a part of me & which I will cherish. Need to sort things b4 I am back at work. I will link u all soon.
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So 2moro I hope 2 add another couple Pages 2 my Tome? Now I’ll have to get into the 21st century with some up-to-date gadgets>>>
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BRITISH to the Core – TOM is! Was in the kitchen cooking up a storm & listening to the radio. TOM seems as if he was carrying the weight of the UK on his shoulders & not ANDY MURRAY? He was watching every volley & barking out advice as if he was Andy’s Coach>>> I am so proud of them both>>>.
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TOM seems to be having 1 heck of a time watching MURRAY play in the final at Wimbledon>>> So now let me get on with the job of finishing the Paper Work….
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Was up until all hours of the morning chatting to Ms Bebe>>>>
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SCAMMER at Barclays & FOS
Emma Martin-Hamilton is a PAEDOPHILE
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From: Emma Martin-Hamilton
Sent: 23 June 2022 14:23
To: Mervelee Myers
Subject: [Confidential] Your complaint about Barclays Bank UK PLC (Our ref:PNX-4291934-J9W5)
Dear Mrs Myers
We’ve received your recent emails dated 17 June 2022. I note you’ve not accepted the ombudsman’s final decision. Thank you for letting me know.
You’ve shared your comments responding to the Ombudsman’s decision and my assessment, along with documents and photographs that you’ve shared. I’ve added these to your file but I can’t comment further on what you’ve said now you’ve had an Ombudsman’s decision – it really is final. I’ve shared your comments with the Ombudsman who’s confirmed what you’ve said hasn’t changed his decision.
As you’ve not accepted the decision, this means it’s not binding on you or Barclays so you might be able to pursue your complaint by other means. I can’t advise you on this but you could seek independent legal advice to discuss your options.
It’s clear you feel very strongly about your case, and the decision you’ve received. You’ve sent us a lot of documents and some of the comments you’ve made about our service aren’t appropriate. One of your emails says “The FOS is a Scammer Ring of Paedophiles” and you’ve also said that “…FOS Braindead must stop discriminate”. I appreciate the outcome wasn’t what you were hoping for but we can’t tolerate offensive comments like these. Please bear this in mind if you bring any future cases to our Service.
I’ve now closed your case as our involvement has come to an end.
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This is how I deal with ignorant BLACK Gal in the job one month…
Mervelee Myers
From: Trina Philbert
Sent: 04 July 2022 11:24
To: ratty.nembhard1956@gmail.com
Cc: Samantha Gibbs; Smith, Candace
Subject: FW: Contact
Dear Mrs Myers,
I hope all is well.
Apologies, that we have been able to speak since our meeting properly.
I wanted to you to make you aware that I will be sending you a letter in the next few days, in regard to ongoing matters and a follow up of our meeting as previously requested.
Thanks,
Kind Regards,
Trina
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Mervelee Tomlinson https://www.linkedin.com stolen my account to cover www.nurseryworld.co.uk and www.leyf.org.uk PAEDOPHILE RINGS
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In the space of 7 months, I have made 2 trips to my beloved country Jamaica for 2 momentous and poignant occasions in my life. I traveled to Jamaica on the 22.12.13, Valdin Legister, my son’s birthday to attend his wedding on New Year’s Day 01.01.14. I was privileged to spend 4 weeks establishing links with my elderly mum whose health was in steady decline. Mum who had Dementia did not recognize her only daughter, Mervelee Ratty Nembhard but I was blessed in a variety of ways. Because my son was living at home with mum, he had become one of the familiar persons who represented consistency and continuity in her life. In a sense, he had taken my place in mum’s heart whilst I was away from the roost.
During my 4 weeks at home, I was empowered to get some more insights into the aging processes that are parts of the transitions from birth to death. If I am lucky I might encounter some of the changes I have witnessed throughout my life as a parent, informal and formal carer. If I live to be anywhere near my mum’s age of 90 years old, I will be blessed with wisdom beyond my age. Now I can honestly say I totally understand the age-old adage that my older folks used “once a man twice a child…” Mum went back to being a child who needed attention 24/7 near the end of her life here on earth. I also got a clearer picture of the person I will morph into as I get older, because I am now proud to be compared to my mother, @www.MerveleeConsultancy.uk.
I am saying this because at one stage, I’d be mortified if anyone had the gall to compare me to mum and my grandma. But as the years went by and I decided to delve into my family history, I was dumbfounded to make some discoveries. Whilst in Jamaica I took the opportunity to put some of my studies at Lambeth College and The Open University that I had done about the young and elderly to good use. I pondered to mum’s every need, applying techniques to revise her memories despite her dementia. I sang with her, talked about her loved ones who had gone on before, and did all in my power to preserve her dignity. It was truly amazing to witness mum being so humble and grateful whenever anyone did her a good turn.
This reminded me so much of some of the vulnerable children with whom I worked over the years. The vulnerable children and adults are relying on the practitioners and other health care professionals to provide for their diverse and complex needs, Disabilities. I felt a sense of purpose when I can implement early intervention strategies from studies and training to meet the needs of any vulnerable human being. I must confess that I had a few eye-opening experiences being with mum, before heading back to the United Kingdom where duty called. That meant I could not stay with mum to celebrate her 90th birthday, but I left with the conviction that I would not be seeing her alive again.
Back in the UK, I was kept up to date with her progress as per usual. Then after doing Cancer Research UK Race for Life in honour of my brother who died of Colon Cancer in 2008, on the 30th May in Clapham. I had this strange feeling before going to bed and I just could not stop crying. I can say as part of my beliefs that my loved ones who had gone on before had reached out to prepare me for mum’s passing in advance. In the middle of the night, I was woken up by the telephone call I was dreading and was in tune to the time when mum drew her last breath. After getting the news I spent the following weeks making preparations for going home to bury mum. This was one of the hardest couple of weeks I had encountered, but I took things in my stride and carried on at Luton Street LEYF Nurseries.
I drafted the Eulogy and remembrance since I am the one responsible for documenting the family history during those couple of weeks. I continued working as hard as ever, burning the candle at both ends to meet my targeted outcomes. I went back to Jamaica to bury mum but decided with my siblings that this was a time for the family to celebrate a life well spent. I got home and took part in the preparations, said I was not going to cry, but on the day of the funeral it was a different story completely. I left home in good spirit, walked up to the casket, looked at mum lying there so quiet and lifeless, and touched her face and hands. I guess that’s when the reality that mum was gone hit home and I could not stop the tears from flowing. So I cried and paced up and down until there were no more tears.
I have been dealing with the death of my loved ones since I was in my teens with the murder of 2 uncles in their homes by both parents, 2 years apart. The gruesome death of my grandma’s only son totally destroyed her and she never recovered. She died 2 years later, a month after the death of my dad in 1980. This meant my family had to deal with death 2 folds over a period of time. Then in 1994, I lost my brother at the tender age of 37 years old and strangely enough he was present when our uncle was brutally murdered and escaped with a few bruises. I lost another brother to Cancer in 2008 after a short illness, he was only 56 years old. That was the time when King’s College Hospital NHS Foundation Trust colluded with UNISON and the London Borough of Southwark SEND Section to discriminate against me.
When I challenged the social injustices and inequalities, they got Capsticks, and Wimbledon to act unprofessionally. A miscarriage of justice was the outcome of the Employment Tribunals London South case I brought against the former employers. I told Dr. Maria Hudson of the Policy Studies Institute in 2010 when she interviewed me that I would clear my name and exonerate myself. Because I was to face blacklisting and networking which further exacerbate my Hidden Disability and trigger the Mental Health Conditions that I write about, which MQ: Transforming mental health is using as part of their campaign. After getting counseling at the Maudsley Hospital, on the advice of the Occupational Health Doctor that #LEYF sends me to after the Medical Suspension.
I was told to seek Cognitive Behavioural Therapy – CBT to find out why I react to certain issues the way I do. I realized that my MOTHER must have suffered from Mental Health Conditions because of her own experiences. The other family I had lost was not that significant, because I knew absolutely nothing about the intricacies of death, at the time. Listening to current debates about euthanasia, the treatment of the vulnerable, and the Bill being debated in Parliament… I can’t help but reflect on some of my own experiences throughout the times when my dad and grandma were sick. Dad was sick for over a decade before he died and in the end, needed care around the clock.
To compound matters, gran took sick and mum had to care for both, with help from her children. I recalled once hearing my brother saying that if it was left to him alone, he would give dad something for him to sleep. Although I was not home during my brother’s brief illness before his death, I have cause to believe he might have hastened his life. All he did to hasten his life was to eat the things that the doctor told him that were not good for his health. I came to this conclusion after going back home and being given certain information and knowing what his thoughts were about suffering.
I know I could not take that pathway if any of my loved ones or myself ever end up like my dad, because of my knowledge, values, and beliefs. But this will not take away from the fact that I can understand why some would decide to go that route. I have seen so much suffering in my lifetime, that I wished there was some way for people to avoid the indignity of depending on anyone else for their every need. Before I reached maturity and gain the knowledge I remonstrated with a God who would allow my dad to suffer so much.
Suffice it to say that I am wiser about such matters and even though I have mellowed, I wish people did not have to suffer like my dad and become like my mum in the last lap of her journey. Although I knew mum would die of old age it was still hard to accept losing a loved one, in particular my mother. She was the centre of our life because of the sacrifices she had made for her family when her husband took sick and died years later. I am proud to say that I had dedicated my life to educating myself as an older student because I never had the opportunity when younger. I was instrumental in diagnosing mum’s condition, passing information to my family to help them provide mum with the care that she would not otherwise have gotten.
When I was still in Jamaica nothing was known about some of the Health Conditions which affected the disabled and elderly. Therefore when these disabled and sick elderly people behaved a certain way, they were stereotyped and classed as mad, miserable or labeled with a variety of undignified names. In this age of enlightenment, I am glad to say that studying empowered me to address some of the imbalances which made my mum’s later days on this earth a more bearable time for her and her family. I am no prophet and will not claim to be brighter than anyone else, but I am proud of the way I have empowered myself to enable me to cope with the challenges of life.
With these tokens, I am better equipped to handle my personal and professional life. However, since my return from burying my Mother LEYF Nurseries has been responsible for denying me my rights to freedom under the United Nations Human Rights laws and legislation. Like the first time when Dr. Maria Hudson of the University of Essex carried out the Research Paper: The Experience of Discrimination on Multiple Grounds for Acas, I have the establishment and systems on my back with discrimination. Voice: the union for education professionals, Advising London, Employment Solicitors, Darvell School part of Community Playthings UK, and the editor of the Nursery World Magazine have carried out conscious discrimination.
Whilst others choose subconscious discrimination to try to cover their tracks. But believe me, they will be named and shamed. That’s why I refuse to allow the naysayers and trolls on Facebook to get under my skin. I have my Fight4justice campaign ensuring that I am an advocate for others. I can’t get employment out there, so I am investing in myself, and starting my own business. I refuse to let the psychopaths get the better of me. I have fought hard to help my family get out of the circumstances of our birth, which is poverty. I want the outcome to be different and I invested in my Sons Kevin Murray and Valdin Legister. That’s why I refuse to allow the Jamaica Football Federation ( J.F.F ) to get away with discrimination against my son for the second time. They did it to my breda Texchus Nembhard and my nephew Veralton Nembhard too. So let the WAR begin.
There are 2 things that are certain in the trilogy of humankind – birth and death, and after death the resurrection. I am praying even though I am not much of a Christian like my Father and Mother before me. But I wish I don’t have to suffer the indignity of having to rely on others to care for me like my parents before me. I guess this is why I take my health so seriously and important and have been making lifestyle changes to keep healthy for as long as reasonably possible. These changes were put in place since I was diagnosed with Depression, Addiction, Anxiety and Chronic Fatigue Information, and a variety of illnesses, some of which are Heredity. I intend to keep in tip-top shape for as long as I can. However, there are certain matters over which we mere humans do not have the final say. I am more than happy to leave such matters in the hands of the Almighty Father who knows everything best.
Mum has gone on to rest from her hard labours and toil and I am sure all my family is in agreement that mum is better off resting instead of staying on this earth suffering, and having no memories of her family. I am more than confident mum has been reunited with all her loved ones who have gone on before? She has done a wonderful job throughout her time and I am more than grateful for the mother God gave me for the 55 years she spent here with me.
Mervelee Tomlinson
Carer at Carer at Home
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Simon L
Billing Resolutions Manager at E.ON
What I’ve learned is that in the “Trilogy of Life”, one thing is uncertain and one thing is sure: life and death, respectively. May your lost loved ones rest in peace, Mervelee.
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