Hi Mervelee Myers, We’re looking for volunteer Digital Champions on Thursday mornings. On Thursday mornings from 10am-12 noon, people can now drop into the Walworth Living Room for help accessing the internet. MM Updates: Does Lucy Welch think this falls within Mervelee Myers’ remit? I mention to Richard Galpin Pembroke House need to have another meeting so the disgruntled Walworth Living Room users can be given a voice to let those in authority know how they are feeling. Do I look like I need help accessing the internet? Refer to https://www.gov.uk/employment-tribunal-decisions/ms-m-myers-v-london-early-years-foundation-2300047-2016 for more.
Some people struggle to get online because they don’t have access to devices while others don’t have the skills to use them. Volunteer Digital Champions can help! MM Updates: Let me ask Pembroke House to research https://www.39essex.com/barrister/smantha-jones for which to me this is exploitation. When I became a volunteer when no one else would give me a chance I did not need any training. If in doubt check my CVs online. Even what https://www.linkedin.com stolen from me. All that has happened to me since www.leyf.org.uk started the discrimination is my intellectual property, images and copyright used and then am a victim of www.met.police.uk and their MURDERERS targeting me from www.peachespublications.co.uk sent them to SECTION me re a malicious report on https://www.facebook.com in 2017. As we are on the topic of volunteer, I must mention http://www.hctgroup.org for emphasis. Because https://www.ryanclement.com used the HCT Group Impact Report 2016 statistic of 1 in 5 of all suicides is associated with unemployment to groom Winsome Duncan to scam me. I was advised to volunteer so I can train to be a teacher. You can do the research to find out the rest.
Volunteers complete certified Digital Champions training (paid for by Southwark Council.) MM Updates: Let me say Southwark Council has been the bane of my life with https://www.jobs.nhs.uk Glendalyn Aboayge and https://careers.kch.nhs.uk Irene Pillia. Southwark Council is a corrupt negligent Agency that tried to trick me out of my Intellectual Property many times. Southwark Council let my neighbour TESS down and I have recordings to prove my arguments. Southwark Council tried to claim my work when I volunteered with www.resourcesforautism.org.uk and I was asked to help prepare the child’s “Care Plan” by the school. So I was asked by Southwark to make a video to encourage the BAME communities to take the COVID-19 vaccine. Suffice it to say Southwark Council will be on my list of those to be on the Emotional Regulation Treatment. I will sum up the discrimination of the past 30 years with https://youtu.be/6-Znc717izc for Richard Harty the mastermind of Men in Childcare.
We need Digital Champions to help in the Walworth Living Room on Thursday mornings and there are other opportunities elsewhere in the borough too. MM Updates: For the past 8 years I could not get a job. I applied to www.cardboardcitizens.org.uk think they could exploit me by telling me about voluntary work.
Interested? Just reply to this email. MM Updates: I am documenting stories and hope to write a tribute for Keith James Ganpot.
Best wishes
Lucy
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LinkedIn is one of the most popular social media networks and the only one dedicated to business and professional networking. It’s the best place to promote your company as an industry leader and a great place to work. Plus, its free tools and paid plans harness the power of LinkedIn’s network for promoting job openings and recruiting new employees.
Businesses can use LinkedIn for a number of initiatives such as business exposure, networking, lead generation, and building brand awareness. For the purpose of this LinkedIn review, we’ll be focusing primarily on using it as a recruiting platform.
Very easy to use
Free plan has excellent tools for networking, researching talent
Top platform for recruiting
Professional focus
Hard to contact support
Paid ad pricing can be expensive
Costs extra to contact people out of your network
Deciding Factors
Very easy to use: In addition to the social-media-style pages, posting, and messaging, the advertising works similar to Google AdWords.
Huge professional network: LinkedIn is a worldwide social media platform with over 810 million members.
Research candidates: Profiles show experience, skills, recommendations, and more
Special recruiting program: LinkedIn Recruiter lets you conduct in-depth searches for talent, reach out to potential candidates and track applicants
Promote job openings and recruiting events: Post on your LinkedIn business page or create sponsored ads
Message potential and current candidates using LinkedIn’s InMail
LinkedIn profile and business pages are free and easy to put together. Besides that, LinkedIn is also one of our top recruiting apps for finding new hires. It offers a paid plan specifically for recruiting, but its free tools are easy to use for research and reaching out to potential candidates.
In short, LinkedIn is best for:
Businesses recruiting qualified professionals: LinkedIn’s profiles allow people to post resume-type information as well as other information that shows them as thought leaders and industry experts.
Businesses looking to find passive candidates through networking: The social media nature and IM tools of LinkedIn make it easy to reach out to connections, even those not actively looking for a job.
Businesses hiring managers and leaders: LinkedIn is one of our top choices for the best job posting sites when seeking people for leadership positions.
Businesses looking for qualified international hires in professional fields: While the US has the most users (around 176 million), over 75% of LinkedIn users are outside the US, according to Kinsta.com. Thus, it’s a good place to look for international employees as well.
When LinkedIn Is Not a Good Fit
Businesses needing hourly or unskilled labor: LinkedIn is a powerful tool for finding and hiring employees—but most candidates on the platform are typically white-collar workers and industry specialists. If you are looking for blue-collar, hourly, or young workers, such as for retail or restaurants, you may want to check out our list of the best recruiting software.
LinkedIn offers free and paid premium plans. In addition to the premium plans listed below, it offers a Sales Navigator plan primarily for identifying potential clients rather than potential employees, so we won’t cover that in detail.
Career: For candidates seeking employment, this plan helps them get on your radar.
Business: Used primarily for promoting your business, it can help you get the attention of qualified job seekers.
Recruiter: If the free tools are not enough, this plan gives you an extra boost with detailed search and improved InMail reach.
Many SMBs find the free plan sufficient for their day-to-day needs, but you can always upgrade to a paid plan for a limited time such as when you are in a hiring surge. LinkedIn also offers a free 30-day-trial of each Premium plan. After that time, it will start billing unless you cancel. It warns you seven days before your trial ends, which is a courtesy we don’t always see in subscribed services.
LinkedIn Plans at a Glance
Free
LinkedIn Premium Career
LinkedIn Premium Business
LinkedIn Recruiter
Cost per month
$0
$29.99
$59.99
$140+
Profile page
✓
✓
✓
✓
Connect with others
✓
✓
✓
✓
Search profiles
✓
✓
✓
✓
See who has viewed your profile in the last 90 days
✓
✓
✓
✓
People browsing (level of connection accessible)
Third degree
Third degree
Third degree
Third degree, advanced search filters, candidate search alerts
Send InMail (to those not in your network)
✕
5
5
30
Business Insights
✕
Company and job applicant
Company and job applicant
InMail performance, company and job analytics
LinkedIn Learning access
✓
✓
✓
✓
Access LinkedIn Interview Prep tools
✓
✓
✓
✓
Advanced plans
✕
✕
✕
Includes team collaborators, more searches, more filters, out-of-network search
Expand the sections below to learn more about each of LinkedIn’s paid plans.
Premium Career
Premium Business
LinkedIn Recruiter
LinkedIn Features
LinkedIn is designed to be a professional networking solution. Therefore, while it offers features similar to most social media platforms, the focus is on business: making contacts, hiring employees, and showing your business in its best light to both customers and potential new hires.
Business LinkedIn Pages
The business account (LinkedIn Page) is about your company—its mission, employees, advertising, jobs, etc. You gain followers rather than connections. Savvy job seekers research the companies they are interested in—and LinkedIn, along with your website, is one of the best ways to learn more about you.
Note:
You have to have a personal page, which we cover next, to set up a business page. If you are the sole proprietor of your business, it may make sense to use your personal page for your business if you only want it for business promotion and your brand is synonymous with you (Gary Sven Marketing, for example). However, you cannot post job ads—this is only available with Business Pages. You can always transition to a business page if you grow. Check out LinkedIn’s guide for how to do just that.
You can post to any of the tabs on your Business Page (About, Posts, Jobs, Video) for free. You can also create events for free. The People tab shows demographics about your employees that LinkedIn has collected based on their personal accounts.
Videos are a great way to capture interest. They also post to your newsfeed. (Source: LinkedIn)
A business page showcases your company and its employees. (Source: LinkedIn)
This section lets potential employees know who you are. (Source: LinkedIn)
You can post jobs for free on your company page. (Source: LinkedIn)
Use posts for broadcasting important events, thought leadership articles, and brand promotion, as well as showing company culture. (Source: LinkedIn)
People demographics can show off your diversity and employee expertise. (Source: LinkedIn)
Videos are a great way to capture interest. They also post to your newsfeed. (Source: LinkedIn)
A business page showcases your company and its employees. (Source: LinkedIn)
This section lets potential employees know who you are. (Source: LinkedIn)
You can post jobs for free on your company page. (Source: LinkedIn)
Use posts for broadcasting important events, thought leadership articles, and brand promotion, as well as showing company culture. (Source: LinkedIn)
People demographics can show off your diversity and employee expertise. (Source: LinkedIn)
Videos are a great way to capture interest. They also post to your newsfeed. (Source: LinkedIn)
Personal Profiles
As a business owner or recruiter, your personal page can introduce you and your company to a broader business audience, help build a network you can tap to fill open roles, establish your credibility in the market, and more. There’s no reason not to have a personal profile, and you need one to create a Business Page.
Personal profiles are also a great resource for looking at potential candidates. You can either search profiles or look up a profile of someone who has applied or been recommended to learn more about them.
A personal profile is much like an online resume and portfolio. (Source: LinkedIn)
LinkedIn’s personal profile is designed to be like a resume and has places for endorsements from previous managers or co-workers. People can indicate if they are looking for work or are open to opportunities. LinkedIn has skills assessment tests with badges for the person’s page and they are noted when someone does a recruitment search. In addition, posts tend to display their expertise in their field, as opposed to the lighter antics of TikTok.
When searching, you can tell who is open to new opportunities right on the profile. (Source: LinkedIn)
InMail
InMail is LinkedIn’s messaging feature, but with a twist. Unless you have a premium plan, you can only contact people with whom you are connected. Paid plans offer a limited number of InMail messages per month to contact people outside your network. In this way, you can reach out to job candidates even if you are not connected with them.
Sponsored messages are promotional or informational ads that are part of a marketing or hiring campaign. You can target these by profile information like position title, industry, or region. They don’t count for message credits in your InMail system but are paid for on a cost-per-send or cost-per-displayed basis. Learn more on LinkedIn.
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Karina Fabian writes and reviews business software, services, and topics for starting a business, startups, and small businesses. She has more than seven years of business writing experience.
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LinkedIn is one of the most popular social media networks and the only one dedicated to business and professional networking. It’s the best place to promote your company as an industry leader and a great place to work. Plus, its free tools and paid plans harness the power of LinkedIn’s network for promoting job openings and recruiting new employees.
Businesses can use LinkedIn for a number of initiatives such as business exposure, networking, lead generation, and building brand awareness. For the purpose of this LinkedIn review, we’ll be focusing primarily on using it as a recruiting platform.
Very easy to use
Free plan has excellent tools for networking, researching talent
Top platform for recruiting
Professional focus
Hard to contact support
Paid ad pricing can be expensive
Costs extra to contact people out of your network
Deciding Factors
Very easy to use: In addition to the social-media-style pages, posting, and messaging, the advertising works similar to Google AdWords.
Huge professional network: LinkedIn is a worldwide social media platform with over 810 million members.
Research candidates: Profiles show experience, skills, recommendations, and more
Special recruiting program: LinkedIn Recruiter lets you conduct in-depth searches for talent, reach out to potential candidates and track applicants
Promote job openings and recruiting events: Post on your LinkedIn business page or create sponsored ads
Message potential and current candidates using LinkedIn’s InMail
LinkedIn profile and business pages are free and easy to put together. Besides that, LinkedIn is also one of our top recruiting apps for finding new hires. It offers a paid plan specifically for recruiting, but its free tools are easy to use for research and reaching out to potential candidates.
In short, LinkedIn is best for:
Businesses recruiting qualified professionals: LinkedIn’s profiles allow people to post resume-type information as well as other information that shows them as thought leaders and industry experts.
Businesses looking to find passive candidates through networking: The social media nature and IM tools of LinkedIn make it easy to reach out to connections, even those not actively looking for a job.
Businesses hiring managers and leaders: LinkedIn is one of our top choices for the best job posting sites when seeking people for leadership positions.
Businesses looking for qualified international hires in professional fields: While the US has the most users (around 176 million), over 75% of LinkedIn users are outside the US, according to Kinsta.com. Thus, it’s a good place to look for international employees as well.
When LinkedIn Is Not a Good Fit
Businesses needing hourly or unskilled labor: LinkedIn is a powerful tool for finding and hiring employees—but most candidates on the platform are typically white-collar workers and industry specialists. If you are looking for blue-collar, hourly, or young workers, such as for retail or restaurants, you may want to check out our list of the best recruiting software.
LinkedIn offers free and paid premium plans. In addition to the premium plans listed below, it offers a Sales Navigator plan primarily for identifying potential clients rather than potential employees, so we won’t cover that in detail.
Career: For candidates seeking employment, this plan helps them get on your radar.
Business: Used primarily for promoting your business, it can help you get the attention of qualified job seekers.
Recruiter: If the free tools are not enough, this plan gives you an extra boost with detailed search and improved InMail reach.
Many SMBs find the free plan sufficient for their day-to-day needs, but you can always upgrade to a paid plan for a limited time such as when you are in a hiring surge. LinkedIn also offers a free 30-day-trial of each Premium plan. After that time, it will start billing unless you cancel. It warns you seven days before your trial ends, which is a courtesy we don’t always see in subscribed services.
LinkedIn Plans at a Glance
Free
LinkedIn Premium Career
LinkedIn Premium Business
LinkedIn Recruiter
Cost per month
$0
$29.99
$59.99
$140+
Profile page
✓
✓
✓
✓
Connect with others
✓
✓
✓
✓
Search profiles
✓
✓
✓
✓
See who has viewed your profile in the last 90 days
✓
✓
✓
✓
People browsing (level of connection accessible)
Third degree
Third degree
Third degree
Third degree, advanced search filters, candidate search alerts
Send InMail (to those not in your network)
✕
5
5
30
Business Insights
✕
Company and job applicant
Company and job applicant
InMail performance, company and job analytics
LinkedIn Learning access
✓
✓
✓
✓
Access LinkedIn Interview Prep tools
✓
✓
✓
✓
Advanced plans
✕
✕
✕
Includes team collaborators, more searches, more filters, out-of-network search
Expand the sections below to learn more about each of LinkedIn’s paid plans.
Premium Career
Premium Business
LinkedIn Recruiter
LinkedIn Features
LinkedIn is designed to be a professional networking solution. Therefore, while it offers features similar to most social media platforms, the focus is on business: making contacts, hiring employees, and showing your business in its best light to both customers and potential new hires.
Business LinkedIn Pages
The business account (LinkedIn Page) is about your company—its mission, employees, advertising, jobs, etc. You gain followers rather than connections. Savvy job seekers research the companies they are interested in—and LinkedIn, along with your website, is one of the best ways to learn more about you.
Note:
You have to have a personal page, which we cover next, to set up a business page. If you are the sole proprietor of your business, it may make sense to use your personal page for your business if you only want it for business promotion and your brand is synonymous with you (Gary Sven Marketing, for example). However, you cannot post job ads—this is only available with Business Pages. You can always transition to a business page if you grow. Check out LinkedIn’s guide for how to do just that.
You can post to any of the tabs on your Business Page (About, Posts, Jobs, Video) for free. You can also create events for free. The People tab shows demographics about your employees that LinkedIn has collected based on their personal accounts.
Videos are a great way to capture interest. They also post to your newsfeed. (Source: LinkedIn)
A business page showcases your company and its employees. (Source: LinkedIn)
This section lets potential employees know who you are. (Source: LinkedIn)
You can post jobs for free on your company page. (Source: LinkedIn)
Use posts for broadcasting important events, thought leadership articles, and brand promotion, as well as showing company culture. (Source: LinkedIn)
People demographics can show off your diversity and employee expertise. (Source: LinkedIn)
Videos are a great way to capture interest. They also post to your newsfeed. (Source: LinkedIn)
A business page showcases your company and its employees. (Source: LinkedIn)
This section lets potential employees know who you are. (Source: LinkedIn)
You can post jobs for free on your company page. (Source: LinkedIn)
Use posts for broadcasting important events, thought leadership articles, and brand promotion, as well as showing company culture. (Source: LinkedIn)
People demographics can show off your diversity and employee expertise. (Source: LinkedIn)
Videos are a great way to capture interest. They also post to your newsfeed. (Source: LinkedIn)
Personal Profiles
As a business owner or recruiter, your personal page can introduce you and your company to a broader business audience, help build a network you can tap to fill open roles, establish your credibility in the market, and more. There’s no reason not to have a personal profile, and you need one to create a Business Page.
Personal profiles are also a great resource for looking at potential candidates. You can either search profiles or look up a profile of someone who has applied or been recommended to learn more about them.
A personal profile is much like an online resume and portfolio. (Source: LinkedIn)
LinkedIn’s personal profile is designed to be like a resume and has places for endorsements from previous managers or co-workers. People can indicate if they are looking for work or are open to opportunities. LinkedIn has skills assessment tests with badges for the person’s page and they are noted when someone does a recruitment search. In addition, posts tend to display their expertise in their field, as opposed to the lighter antics of TikTok.
When searching, you can tell who is open to new opportunities right on the profile. (Source: LinkedIn)
InMail
InMail is LinkedIn’s messaging feature, but with a twist. Unless you have a premium plan, you can only contact people with whom you are connected. Paid plans offer a limited number of InMail messages per month to contact people outside your network. In this way, you can reach out to job candidates even if you are not connected with them.
Sponsored messages are promotional or informational ads that are part of a marketing or hiring campaign. You can target these by profile information like position title, industry, or region. They don’t count for message credits in your InMail system but are paid for on a cost-per-send or cost-per-displayed basis. Learn more on LinkedIn.
In the space of 7 months I have made 2 trips to my beloved country Jamaica for 2 momentous and poignant occasions in my life. I travelled to Jamaica on the 22.12.13, Valdin Legister, my son’s birthday to attend his wedding on New Years Day 01.01.14. I was privileged to spend 4 weeks establishing links with my elderly mum whose health was in steady decline. Mum who had Dementia did not recognised her only daughter, Mervelee Ratty Nembhard but I was blessed in a variety of ways. Because my son was living at home with mum, he had become one of the familiar persons who represented consistency and continuity in her life. In a sense he had taken my place in mum’s heart whilst I was away from the roost.
During my 4 weeks at home I was empowered to get some more insights into the aging processes that are parts of the transitions from birth to death. If I am lucky I might encounter some of the changes I have witnessed throughout my life as a parent, informal and formal carer. If I live to be anywhere near to my mum’s age of 90 years old, I will be blessed with wisdom beyond my age. Now I can honestly say I totally understand the age old adage that my older folks used “once a man twice a child…” Mum went back to being a child who needed attention 24/7 near the end of her life here on earth. I also got a clearer picture of the person I will morph into as I get older, because I am now proud to be compared to my mother, @www.MerveleeConsultancy.uk.
I am saying this because at one stage, I’d be mortified if anyone had the gall to compare me to mum and my grandma. But as the years went by and I decided to delve into my family history, I was dumbfounded to make some discoveries. Whilst in Jamaica I took the opportunity to put some of my studies at Lambeth College and the The Open University that I had done about the young and elderly to good use. I pondered to mum’s every needs, applying techniques to revise her memories despite her dementia. I sang with her, talked about her loved ones who had gone on before and did all in my power to preserve her dignity. It was truly amazing to witness mum being so humble and grateful whenever anyone did her a good turn.
This reminded me so much of some of the vulnerable children with whom I worked over the years. The vulnerable children and adults are relying on the practitioners and other health care professionals to provide for their diverse and complex needs, Disabilities. I felt a sense of purpose when I can implement early intervention strategies from studies and trainings to meet the needs of any vulnerable human being. I must confess that I had a few eye opening experiences being with mum, before heading back to the United Kingdom where duty call. That meant I could not stay with mum to celebrate her 90th birthday, but I left with the convictions that I would not be seeing her alive again.
Back in the UK I was kept up to date with her progress as per usual. Then after doing Cancer Research UK Race for Life in honour of my brother who died of Colon Cancer in 2008, on the 30th May in Clapham. I had this strange feelings before going to bed and I just could not stop crying. I can say as part of my beliefs that my loved ones who had gone on before had reached out to prepare me about mum’s passing in advance. In the middle of the night I was woken up by the telephone call I was dreading and was in tuned to the time when mum drew her last breathe. After getting the news I spent the following weeks making preparations for going home to bury mum. This was one of the hardest couple of weeks I had encountered, but I took things in my stride and carried on at Luton Street LEYF Nurseries.
I drafted the Eulogy and remembrance since I am the one responsible for documenting the family history during those couple of weeks. I continued working as hard as ever, burning the candle at both ends to meet my targeted outcomes. I went back to Jamaica to bury mum, but decided with my siblings that this was a time for the family to celebrate a life well spent. I got home and took part in the preparations, said I was not going to cry, but on the day of the funeral it was a different story completely. I left home in good spirit, walked up to the casket, looked at mum lying there so quiet and life less, touched her face and hands. I guess that’s when the reality that mum was gone hit home and I could not stop the tears from flowing. So I cried and paced up and down until there were no more tears.
I have been dealing with the death of my loved ones from I was in my teens with the murder of 2 uncles in their homes from both parents, 2 years apart. The gruesome death of my grandma’s only son totally destroyed her and she never recovered. She died 2 years later, a month after the death of my dad in 1980. This meant my family had to deal with death 2 folds over a period of time. Then in 1994 I lost my brother at the tender age of 37 years old and strangely enough he was present when our uncle was brutally murdered and escaped with a few bruises. I lost another brother to Cancer in 2008 after a short illness, he was only 56 years old. That was the time when King’s College Hospital NHS Foundation Trust colluded with UNISON and London Borough of Southwark SEND Section to discriminate against me.
When I challenged the social injustices and inequalities, they got Capsticks, Wimbledon to act unprofessionally. A miscarriage of justice was the outcome of the Employment Tribunals London South case I brought against the former employers. I told Dr Maria Hudson of the Policy Studies Institute in 2010, when she interviewed me that I would clear my name and exonerate myself. Because I was to face blacklisting and networking which further exacerbate my Hidden Disability and trigger the Mental Health Conditions that I write about, which MQ: Transforming mental health is using as part of their campaign. After getting counseeling at the Maudsley Hospital, on the advise of the Occupational Health Doctor that #LEYF send me to after the Medical Suspension.
I was told to seek Cognitive Behavioural Therapy – CBT to find out why I react to certain issues the way I do. I realised that my MOTHER, must have suffered from Mental Health Conditions because of her own experiences. The other family I had lost were not that significant, because I knew absolutely nothing about the intricacies of death, at the time. Listening to current debates about euthanasia, the treatment of the vulnerable and the Bill being debated in Parliament… I can’t help but reflect on some of my own experiences throughout the times when my dad and grandma were sick. Dad was sick for over a decade before he died and in the end needed care around the clock.
To compound matters, gran took sick and mum had to care for both, with help from her children. I recalled once hearing my brother saying that if it was left to him alone, he would give dad something for him to sleep. Although I was not home during my brother’s brief illness before his death, I have cause to believe he might have hastened his life. All he did to hasten his life was to eat the things that the doctor told him that were not good for his health. I came to this conclusion after going back home and being given certain information and knowing what his thoughts were about suffering.
I know I could not take that pathway if any of my loved ones or myself ever end up like my dad, because of my knowledge, values and beliefs. But this will not take away from the fact that I can understand why some would decide to go that route. I have seen so much suffering in my life time, that I wished there was some way for people to avoid the indignity of depending on anyone else for their every needs. Before I reached maturity and gain knowledge I remonstrated with a God who would allow my dad to suffer so much.
Suffice it to say that I am wiser about such matters and even though I have mellowed, I wish people did not have to suffer like my dad, and become like my mum in her last lap of her journey. Although I knew mum would die of old age it was still hard to accept losing a loved one, in particular my mother. She was the centre of our life because of the sacrifices she had made for her family when her husband took sick and died years later. I am proud to say that because I had dedicated my life to educating myself as an older student because I never had the opportunity when younger. I was instrumental in diagnosing mum’s condition, passing information to my family to help them provide mum with care that she would not otherwise have gotten.
When I was still in Jamaica nothing was known about some of the Health Conditions which affected the disabled and elderly. Therefore when these disabled and sick elderly people behaved a certain way, they were stereotyped and classed as mad, miserable or labelled with a variety of undignified names. In this age of enlightenment I am glad to say that studying empowered me to address some of the imbalances which made my mum’s later days on this earth a more bearable time for her and her family. I am no prophet and will not claim to be brighter than anyone else, but I am proud of the way I have empowered myself to enable me to cope with the challenges of life.
By these tokens I am better equipped to handle my personal and professional life. However since my return from burying my Mother LEYF Nurseries has been responsible for denying me my rights to freedom under the United Nations Human Rights laws and legislations. Like the first time when Dr Maria Hudson of University of Essex carried out the Research Paper: The Experience of Discrimination on Multiple Grounds for Acas, I have the establshment and systems on my back with discrimination. Voice: the union for education professionals, Advising London, Employment Solicitors, Darvell School part of Community Playthings UK, the editor of the Nursery World Magazine have carried out conscious discrimination.
Whilst others choose the subconsious discrimination to try cover their tracks. But believe me they will be named and shamed.That’s why I refuse to allow the naysayers and trolls on Facebook to get under my skin. I have my Fight4justice campaign ensuring that I am an advocate for others. I can’t get employment out there, so I am investing in myself, starting my own business. I refuse to let the psychopaths get the better of me. I have fought hard to help my family get out of the circumstances of our birth, which is poverty. I want the outcome to be different and I invested in my Sons Kevin Murray and Valdin Legister. That’s why I refuse to allow the Jamaica Football Federation ( J.F.F ) to get away with discrimination of my son for the second time. They done it to my breda Texchus Nembhard and my nephew Veralton Nembhard too. So let the WAR begin.
There are 2 things that are certain in the trilogy of human kind – birth and death, and after death the resurrection. I am praying even though I am not much of a Christian like my Father and Mother before me. But I wish I don’t have to suffer the indignity of having to rely on others to care for me like my parents before me. I guess this is why I take my health so seriously and important and have been making life style changes to keep healthy as long as is reasonably possible. These changes were put in place since I was diagnosed with Depression, Addiction, Anxiety and Chronic Fatigue Information, a variety of illnesses, some of which are Heredity. I intend to keep in tip top shape for as long as I can. However there are certain matters over which we mere humans do not have the final say. I am more than happy to leave such matters in the hands of the Almighty Father who knows everything best.
Mum has gone on to rest from her hard labours and toil and I am sure all my family are in agreement that mum is better off resting instead of staying on this earth suffering, and having no memories of her family. I am more than confident mum has been reunited with all her loved ones who have gone on before? She has done a wonderful job throughout her time and I am more than grateful for the mother God gave me for the 55 years she spent here with me.
Mervelee Tomlinson
Carer at Carer at Home
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What I’ve learned is that, in the “Trilogy of Life”, one thing is uncertain and one thing is sure: life and death, respectively. May your lost loved ones rest in peace, Mervelee.
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On this day
5 years ago
Mervelee Ratty Nembhard is remembering those who are no longer with us with Ervin Nembhard and
6 others
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July 19, 2017 ·
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Dealing with Death of Loved Ones
Mervelee Tomlinson
Carer at Carer at Home
In the space of 7 months I have made 2 trips to my beloved country Jamaica for 2 momentous and poignant occasions in my life. I travelled to Jamaica on the 22.12.13, Valdin Legister, my son’s birthday to attend his wedding on New Years Day 01.01.14. I was privileged to spend 4 weeks establishing links with my elderly mum whose health was in steady decline. Mum who had Dementia did not recognised her only daughter, Mervelee Ratty Nembhard but I was blessed in a variety of ways. Because my son was living at home with mum, he had become one of the familiar persons who represented consistency and continuity in her life. In a sense he had taken my place in mum’s heart whilst I was away from the roost.
During my 4 weeks at home I was empowered to get some more insights into the aging processes that are parts of the transitions from birth to death. If I am lucky I might encounter some of the changes I have witnessed throughout my life as a parent, informal and formal carer. If I live to be anywhere near to my mum’s age of 90 years old, I will be blessed with wisdom beyond my age. Now I can honestly say I totally understand the age old adage that my older folks used “once a man twice a child…” Mum went back to being a child who needed attention 24/7 near the end of her life here on earth. I also got a clearer picture of the person I will morph into as I get older, because I am now proud to be compared to my mother, @www.MerveleeConsultancy.uk.
I am saying this because at one stage, I’d be mortified if anyone had the gall to compare me to mum and my grandma. But as the years went by and I decided to delve into my family history, I was dumbfounded to make some discoveries. Whilst in Jamaica I took the opportunity to put some of my studies at Lambeth College and the The Open University that I had done about the young and elderly to good use. I pondered to mum’s every needs, applying techniques to revise her memories despite her dementia. I sang with her, talked about her loved ones who had gone on before and did all in my power to preserve her dignity. It was truly amazing to witness mum being so humble and grateful whenever anyone did her a good turn.
This reminded me so much of some of the vulnerable children with whom I worked over the years. The vulnerable children and adults are relying on the practitioners and other health care professionals to provide for their diverse and complex needs, Disabilities. I felt a sense of purpose when I can implement early intervention strategies from studies and trainings to meet the needs of any vulnerable human being. I must confess that I had a few eye opening experiences being with mum, before heading back to the United Kingdom where duty call. That meant I could not stay with mum to celebrate her 90th birthday, but I left with the convictions that I would not be seeing her alive again.
Back in the UK I was kept up to date with her progress as per usual. Then after doing Cancer Research UK Race for Life in honour of my brother who died of Colon Cancer in 2008, on the 30th May in Clapham. I had this strange feelings before going to bed and I just could not stop crying. I can say as part of my beliefs that my loved ones who had gone on before had reached out to prepare me about mum’s passing in advance. In the middle of the night I was woken up by the telephone call I was dreading and was in tuned to the time when mum drew her last breathe. After getting the news I spent the following weeks making preparations for going home to bury mum. This was one of the hardest couple of weeks I had encountered, but I took things in my stride and carried on at Luton Street LEYF Nurseries.
I drafted the Eulogy and remembrance since I am the one responsible for documenting the family history during those couple of weeks. I continued working as hard as ever, burning the candle at both ends to meet my targeted outcomes. I went back to Jamaica to bury mum, but decided with my siblings that this was a time for the family to celebrate a life well spent. I got home and took part in the preparations, said I was not going to cry, but on the day of the funeral it was a different story completely. I left home in good spirit, walked up to the casket, looked at mum lying there so quiet and life less, touched her face and hands. I guess that’s when the reality that mum was gone hit home and I could not stop the tears from flowing. So I cried and paced up and down until there were no more tears.
I have been dealing with the death of my loved ones from I was in my teens with the murder of 2 uncles in their homes from both parents, 2 years apart. The gruesome death of my grandma’s only son totally destroyed her and she never recovered. She died 2 years later, a month after the death of my dad in 1980. This meant my family had to deal with death 2 folds over a period of time. Then in 1994 I lost my brother at the tender age of 37 years old and strangely enough he was present when our uncle was brutally murdered and escaped with a few bruises. I lost another brother to Cancer in 2008 after a short illness, he was only 56 years old. That was the time when King’s College Hospital NHS Foundation Trust colluded with UNISON and London Borough of Southwark SEND Section to discriminate against me.
When I challenged the social injustices and inequalities, they got Capsticks, Wimbledon to act unprofessionally. A miscarriage of justice was the outcome of the Employment Tribunals London South case I brought against the former employers. I told Dr Maria Hudson of the Policy Studies Institute in 2010, when she interviewed me that I would clear my name and exonerate myself. Because I was to face blacklisting and networking which further exacerbate my Hidden Disability and trigger the Mental Health Conditions that I write about, which MQ: Transforming mental health is using as part of their campaign. After getting counseeling at the Maudsley Hospital, on the advise of the Occupational Health Doctor that #LEYF send me to after the Medical Suspension.
I was told to seek Cognitive Behavioural Therapy – CBT to find out why I react to certain issues the way I do. I realised that my MOTHER, must have suffered from Mental Health Conditions because of her own experiences. The other family I had lost were not that significant, because I knew absolutely nothing about the intricacies of death, at the time. Listening to current debates about euthanasia, the treatment of the vulnerable and the Bill being debated in Parliament… I can’t help but reflect on some of my own experiences throughout the times when my dad and grandma were sick. Dad was sick for over a decade before he died and in the end needed care around the clock.
To compound matters, gran took sick and mum had to care for both, with help from her children. I recalled once hearing my brother saying that if it was left to him alone, he would give dad something for him to sleep. Although I was not home during my brother’s brief illness before his death, I have cause to believe he might have hastened his life. All he did to hasten his life was to eat the things that the doctor told him that were not good for his health. I came to this conclusion after going back home and being given certain information and knowing what his thoughts were about suffering.
I know I could not take that pathway if any of my loved ones or myself ever end up like my dad, because of my knowledge, values and beliefs. But this will not take away from the fact that I can understand why some would decide to go that route. I have seen so much suffering in my life time, that I wished there was some way for people to avoid the indignity of depending on anyone else for their every needs. Before I reached maturity and gain knowledge I remonstrated with a God who would allow my dad to suffer so much.
Suffice it to say that I am wiser about such matters and even though I have mellowed, I wish people did not have to suffer like my dad, and become like my mum in her last lap of her journey. Although I knew mum would die of old age it was still hard to accept losing a loved one, in particular my mother. She was the centre of our life because of the sacrifices she had made for her family when her husband took sick and died years later. I am proud to say that because I had dedicated my life to educating myself as an older student because I never had the opportunity when younger. I was instrumental in diagnosing mum’s condition, passing information to my family to help them provide mum with care that she would not otherwise have gotten.
When I was still in Jamaica nothing was known about some of the Health Conditions which affected the disabled and elderly. Therefore when these disabled and sick elderly people behaved a certain way, they were stereotyped and classed as mad, miserable or labelled with a variety of undignified names. In this age of enlightenment I am glad to say that studying empowered me to address some of the imbalances which made my mum’s later days on this earth a more bearable time for her and her family. I am no prophet and will not claim to be brighter than anyone else, but I am proud of the way I have empowered myself to enable me to cope with the challenges of life.