A Daughter’s Tribute to Her Mother 5 Years after the Final Goodbye On 22/01/2014
Written by Mervelee Myers aka Ratty Nembhard 16th January 2019
I have set myself this target of writing a tribute to my mother about our life as a testimony to the woman she was. I am hoping that by sharing my story about Mama this will help others not to take any of the persons in their lives for granted. Every day I am living with this regret of not knowing much about my mum until it was almost too late to do more than I done. And that was using my passion for writing to tell her story so others could get an understanding of who she was at her funeral. This was only a few months of hearing about her struggles throughout life as a result of the adversities and challenges. However, I am grateful for the way I was brought up and the experiences that shape me into the person who I am. I must mention that without https://www.facebook.com/public/Mervelee-Myers from February 2010, I would be at a loss to be creating legacies.
I will have to mention the two most influential persons who shared Mama’s story with me. They are my elder brother Balis and one of Mama’s best friend. Ms Connie Jordine-Legister and Mama were like sisters from the time they meet as young women. Their link was falling in love with men from St Elizabeth. I am therefore thinking that’s how their fate was sealed to become lifelong friends. I will have to use Naheel Julene Brown Legister updated status to say what I might not be able to put into words? Facebook: “Sometimes things happen to others which forces you to reflect on life. Sometimes people do things which leave many questions unanswered. Though that may be the case be comforted knowing you have an ever loyal, ever caring father (God) who will take you through the storms of life. He may not use your methods but if you have faith in him, he will deliver and that is what ultimately matters”.
After saying my final goodbye to Mama on the 22/01/2014, I know without a shadow of a doubt how much my life would change. However, nothing prepared me for what was to happen and coming up five (5) years, I am awaiting closure. In the meantime let me use some of my Facebook Memories in helping to share stories of my experiences. This is/was my entry for the post from my daughter-in-law. I am a very astute and perceptive person. I am positive I am gifted with a vision from God, however, I don’t know how to interpret. Facebook: “Words of #Comfort from a #Genuinely_Caring_Person! People come into your #Life4Many_REASONS. It was because my son made the decision to get married in 2014 and I went home on the #22ndDecember2013 when I met this #YoungLady. I have had nothing but #Joys added to my life since then. Long may this continue as there is a GOD, that is #Compassionate_Cares_Answers_Prayers!
Facebook Memory: “Was sat on the veranda talking to my friend Mr George Scott when I spotted one (1) big Julie mango. Wonder if it will be ready? Sum luck then where the Scott are concerned”. Strangely enough, I only meet Mr Scott by chance after talking to his brother in the presence of Sonny Mitto. I know Sonny for years as he is family of Balis wife. I know some of the Scott, and Ms Ena in particular. But did not know either of the two brothers I meet by chance. I will describe myself as a sociable person who is in tuned with most people from the community. My interests in people goes back to my childhood and I would say I am/was influenced by my upbringing in the communities where everyone was responsible for teaching me about life in general.
Strangely enough I was talking to Joy earlier and the subject of why I am unable to do the Family Reunion came up. Top of the agenda is the house. The following is about the house back home. Basically it is on hold at the moment because of what happened after the death of Mama. Facebook Memory: “Now I can better understand Mamas ambition and I am more than happy to make it a Reality”. Only someone who grew up in abject poverty after my Father was stricken with Parkinson’s disease will be able to understand where I am coming from with my arguments. I was affected in so many different ways by the change in fortune of my family’s circumstances in life. On reflection and after being advised to get Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, I can see how much I was affected as an only girl.
I want to paint a true and realistic picture of Mama for others to realise that there is no need for anyone to be ashamed of who they are. There was a time in my life when I was exactly the opposite of who I am now. I would hate it when I am/was compared to my Mama or Granny. But the more I am knowing about my family, the more I am getting to understand what makes me tick. Therefore, I have no need to airbrush my life to suit any other person. If anyone wants to airbrush me out of their life to suit another person, they are welcome. I would recommend everyone to be true to themselves. That’s the only way to gain peace of mind. I think both my Grandma and Mama might have found some of that in the end?
The Man Who Mama Loved After Papa
The other man I know in Mama’s life is/was Mass Victor. There was no secret about that either. I am sure my Papa must have known about him and given his blessings. The only drawback is/was Mass Victor was not the marrying type. I know because I tried on a few occasions when I was home to get them hitched. I promised to buy the ring and everything else. That’s why I could take everything in my stride whilst spending the last month with her. She had forgotten about her only daughter, but not Mass Victor. Love is too complicated for me to even try to work out why this was so. So I find Mass Victor. Facebook Memory: “So I eventually found Mass Victor aka Clement Baker in Grange Hill. Then I went to Kendal in Hanover to see my nephew Jevon Nembhard”.
More Family History & Other Facts
I knew my Grandfather Claudius was from Grange Hill. Years ago I meet my Grand Uncle who lived in Massachusetts. He used to write to Mama and send her gifts. Mama talked about her rich Auntie who wanted her to come and live with her to teach her to be a baker. But her Father objected and she listened to him. I knew Raymond Hall for years before knowing he and Mama were close family. Therefore I will have to revisit the class barriers and why Mama was against me going out with anyone who she considers I was not on equal footing with. Facebook Memory: “So I went to Grange Hill yesterday and was in for some more Family history. There is/was a Chambers Lane in Grange Hill and at one (1) time my Mum’s Family were land Barons. They lived at the top of the Hill in Chambers Lane. They owned a portion of land all the way to Sterling”.
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S5 years ago Facebook Memories:
“Brain Teaser: Why do sick person like my mum doesn’t like to drink Water? Went to look for Ms Nicey’s mum over Truro and that was something she shared about her mum. I am sure the answer don’t lie in the fact that they are called Louise. Louise Grant and Chambers-Nembhard”. Update 17/01/2019: I am carer for my elderly husband and this is where my knowledge and expertise as an expert authority on subjects from cradle to grave is coming in handy. That’s why after the labelling by LEYF of me like Dr Maria Hudson www.acas.org.uk/researchpapers finding. Of uncooperative, unprofessional, rude, intimidating, confrontational, aggressive, lacking empathy after the death of my mother. And months after being given the CEO Long Service Awards, I am holding LEYF accountable.
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FB 1 – Subject of Dementia: “Went to do my regular Mama check and she looks at me and asks… ‘a wonder if me daughter gone back yet, you did know her’? I look her in the eyes and say a me a you daughter, you nuh know Ratty? Got to be thankful for small Mercies”. FB 2 – Dementia: “Pleasant Good Morning. I am happy to be alive and in relatively good health. The days are getting nearer when I have to make my way back Home”. FB 3 – Subject of my Christian Upbringing: Finally my calling is being revealed. Might have to join up with my niece Ann Chambers in walking in my Papa’s footsteps. Top of Form 1Bottom of Form
Facebook Memories: FB 4 – Sharing my Thoughts: “Don’t necessarily have any plans for tomorrow, but am sure supn a guh gwaan”. Top of Form
5 years ago. FB – 5: “Life getting a bit complicated. Me just a hole me cornas & tek een wat a guh dung”. FB 6 – Early Childhood Education: “Spent most of my day at the Townhead Basic School”. FB 7 – Basic School Teacher: “Suppose to get me lazy ass up to the Basic School to see what’s going on. Of course I have a vested interest in everything TOWNHEAD”. FB – 8 Education is Key: “The big boss man my son Valdin Legister ready to go to school. Friendship Strawberry and surroundings WE have been trodding those roads for ages. Keep your eyes out for the other son. My boys are following in the footsteps of some stalwarts”. FB 9: “After the day I had…? Imagine I’m still up fiddling with my New Machine (NM)…?” Top of Form
Been off the FB for nearly a week… Just got my NM machine and trying to (2) navigate my way round…” Top of Form. Bottom of Form
7 years ago. Mervelee Ratty Nembhard. January 17, 2012 at 11:12 PM · London · Updates 17/01/2019: Here is just another reason why I am challenging https://www.gov.uk/employment-tribunal-decisions/ms-m-myers-v-london-early-years-foundation-2300047-2016 for the hate crime making me a victim. “Read an Informative Article in the Evening Standards which gave ME food for (4) thoughts… Exact replica of My EXPERIENCE!!! Just have to (2) think Person don’t bother (bodda) waste your (U) TIME… Just goes to (2) show it can Happen to (2) the Best of US…”
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Facebook Memories: “Oh yes even SINNERS prayers are answered!!!! More A/L to be used to plan my trip 2 JA… 1 by 1 everything is falling into place I exercised my final Ghost today… Got rid of all the BAGGAGE that cluttered my LIFE… Have been REBORN!!! Praises to JAH…” Updates 17/01/2019: Here’s why http://www.justice.gov.uk/tribunals/employment/claims/responding will have to be accountable for why they were negligent about not acting on my concerns about www.personnelconsultancy.com? Now I’m baffled, why am I only seeing adverts instead of my notifications? Mi nuh falla nobaddy helse trends. (Translate: I don’t follow anybody else’s trends) I’m hinto Jackie M… Updates: This was after Facebook allowed another person to troll me. After they give LEYF access to my account on the 18/09/2015 to exploit my vulnerability of having disabilities. Top of Form
Mixture of Patois – Mother Tongue & English
We NEMBHARD are #nudist exhibitionist. I grew up running around like one of my (bredas) brothers until I reached Puberty. Then my Mama started locking down, but me being the rebel, have to do the opposite of what I am told. But I got it wrong when Mama Lou say (mark whore – sarcasms), don’t let any man touch you. And believe me, no man would not get the chance to touch me. By the time I spot Mr Alverie Michael Legister, a mi (dat), foot (wey) you (dey). Until he told me about the birds and the bees. Like everything in my life, I take it one day at a time Mr T…. But nothing stops me from being a nudist in my comfort zones. Mama Lou always say to me “(wat mek dis gal) don’t stop show people her pussy”? Pity Mama Lou don’t realise how I learned the hard way not to show my #goldmine to any and anyone?
There are scammers out there who are waiting for the least scrap of dirt to blackmail you. That’s why when #NeilKing called me to LEYF Nurseries on the 22nd September 2015 and a try blackmail me to write resignation… I quote the Equality Act 2010, the Data Protection Act 1998, the Human Rights Act 1998, the British values, the EYFS, et al at them… Then I told them off for using Positive Discrimination to make the lives of employees the living hell that they made mine. I will write the story of what they do to #JudyVaughn with their allegations when she was going through her transitioning. Maybe by then the Employment Tribunal Law and Employment Tribunals Act 1996 will have to be reviewed?
Now those 3 Judges from the Employment tribunal will understand what I mean when I said the contract I signed on the 7th October 2009 was not reviewed and updated. But stranger still after refusing to send me the link to renew my DBS, they stop me doing duties… Then when they realised they were in the shit, asked me to bring my DBS as volunteer from Resources for Autism to copy. To put in my FILE. But you claim you don’t have a FILE for me. It was with Bates Wells & Braithwaite London for them to try make a case against me, before I left Luton Street on the 22nd July 2014.
I have my Fight4justice, MyJAMAICA, Merveleeconsultancy, My Professional Development Portfolio, Janet Beeput, Google, WordPress.com, Twitter, LinkedIn, YouTube, Flickr and soon the rest will be revealed. So Winsome Duncan: Author & Public Speaker of Peaches Publications, who was groomed by Ryan Clement, I will be getting on your case soon.
This is my MOTHER Perline LOUISE Nembhard. But she will not fear to tell you that only the joint with the ring is NEMBHARD. So Mr T, and Missa Mack, you can play your cards right?
fi go dung a Jamaica mek Dostan
Nembhard cuss her until fly blow her… Like when her breda Papa Son
big hog fight each other and the loser DEAD. We know Jackie nuh like we,
and we nuh like her either. But tell di oddas keep dem cool, or old kaka a guh
tun up new?
We not only have brains and good body fi tek naked photos, we are very astute. So it seems Jackie sit dung pon my Facebook Page a look publicity? If she don’t leave voluntarily, she will be forcibly removed….? Where are her friends who she be calling all over the world?
Building my Brand via my Passion of Writing and Photography
I joined Facebook officially in February 2010, after first using my AOL account in 2009. Facebook have been trying to close down my account to deny me my entitlement of getting justice from the time they give LEYF access on the 18/09/2015. Because of the trolling I experienced on Facebook that exacerbated my disabilities, mental and physical, I am taking a different approach about how I am engaging with Social Media platforms. As cab be witnessed from my post, I am a trendsetter. I am responsible for linking communities across the globe. Sharing stories that are/were of interests to others. That’s until LEYF and Facebook joined forces to discriminate against me. The following are some of the evidence of how I use myself to share stories.
I have everyone on my Facebook. Mr T, here is your #Family connection via Gooden-McIntosh Land to GaGa Street to Mr Smith. I will leave you to work out the rest. By the way you get the Ramcharran and Sinanan mixed up mate. My niece Careen Nembhard Sinanan is married to a Sinanan. And my nephew Gregory is/was married to a Ramcharran. That’s enough family history for the day Mr Alfred Taylor.
In case anyone is wondering, #sexiness runs in the #Chambers_Nembhard Family. The men are tall and the women are short, but wow, we can tek life. My husband Mr AT can give you the bill and receipt. Oh my cuz will celebrate her 95th birthday one day before my Mama’s on the 25th January. They call her daughter the #BlackChinese because she get my granny Features. Oh have to find time to go back to Ancestry to finish sign up for my DNA. The Chambers family is from Sterling Grange Hill, Westmoreland, Jamaica.
Here is why I will continue making my life an Open Book. Otherwise I would not have any legs to stand on after the Employment Tribunal make me a victim. After presiding over the second miscarriages of justice. After using Subject Access Request – Data Protection Act – 117119. The Ministry Of Justice confirm that the Employment Tribunal at London South no longer holds the personal data in respect of my case against Kings College Hospital NHS Foundation Trust. Is there any wonder that the Windrush Generation are being treated like the Children of Israel? LEYF claim not to have any data of the time I worked 01/09/2009 to 27/09/2015. No record of the CEO Long Service Awards of 15/10/2014 is recorded either. Yet my CV is online for all to see.
The following is my reflection of the home I grew up in. The house is on hold with regards to building work. I have not worked since I was forced to resign with a nervous breakdown. All my plans are on hold five (5) years after saying my final goodbye to my mother. The fact that I recorded my life on Facebook just making me sad about the way I have been treated by those individuals, the systems and establishments that set out using my vulnerability to exploit me for having disabilities. Facebook Memories: There is no sign of the old house, but I have my memories. So LEYF Nurseries and the Employment Tribunal Service have lots of catching up to do. At least my Townhead Primary School mate is making better progress than them. All anyone needs to do is mention #Ashter_Sister? Top of Form
Made a round trip 2 Peckham. 10,500 steps. Any1 remember Frome School days? Ms Wire Waist 4 cert. I’ll be a Porn Star 4 cash. No sex
Written by: Mervelee Myers in celebration of my Final Goodbye to Mama Lou 22/01/2014.